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20 February, 2007

Marital mismatch

The UAE's anti-golddigging laws apparently arrived too late for this couple:

"A 32-year-old Egyptian woman has received a one month suspended jail sentence for threatening her 75-year-old ex-husband with a knife and swearing at him.

"The Court of Appeal was told the woman had left the house after her marriage to the Emirati had broken down."

Well no one saw that coming did they? A local man, a foreign woman and a forty-three year age gap.



Anonymous Anonymous said...

anti-golddigging laws damnit I could have used that law. :D

20 February, 2007 09:52  
Blogger dontfearfreedom said...

Why protect them? If anyone cannot see that a 20-something marying them is for money or residency then they deserve to be taken for a ride. Love might be blind but you should still be able to smell a rat! Same applies world-wide.

As for the other laws regarding marrying non-nationals; if some crusty (insert home country) goverment told me I couldn't marry the beautiful sweedish girl I met at university and that I had to marry a minger from Scunthorpe.....

Makes you wonder why, even with cash and property prizes for marrying local, they have to make a law restricting marrying non-local. Are local women really that difficult? I'd marry a few for a new villa in Emirates (Beverly) Hills and a new Escalade.

20 February, 2007 11:47  
Blogger Taunted said...

A proper Anna-Nicole Smith story.

So sweet of the lady to service the gentleman in the twilight days of his life.

20 February, 2007 13:47  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its a shame really what is happening. It has been happening for a while now.

Alot of successfull GCC nationals, and also royalty end up marrying ladies from the Levant and other far away places.

Sometimes they do this when they already have a first wife; who is usually a long suffering cousin, or if not suffering now, about to be suffering.

Look at the case of the local Royal family here. The men ended up having second and more wives. Their wives protested but they couldnt do shit.

The worse thing is that their first wives end up having been locked up, no one even knows how they look like. Well most people dont know how they look like anyway. But, But their new modern wives end up being paraded like show dogs around the world, even appearing in magazine spreads in various "poses".

Now where is the fairness in that, its even beyond hypocracy. Its beyond stupidity, perhaps criminally stupid.

20 February, 2007 15:05  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

People in sensitive military positions will have problems marrying "out". Hmm isnt the head of the armed forces in this country married to a foreign woman? So is he going to lose his benefits? It will be interesting to see. Yes it will be interesting.

20 February, 2007 15:15  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sweet !

The democracy is with the e-services only !

Otherwise, you should realise you are living in Dubai !

20 February, 2007 18:11  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow - - is all I can say!
Thanks SD for enlightening us out here about such regulation policies.
I had absolutely no clue and - wow again - did those even considering such BS learn from Nazism with some type of 'master race' plan – it is soooo sick ….

'…. marriage to foreigners as a top priority on account of its adverse impact on the society' ??????? Just imagine any EU government would come up with such an obscene plan!
Algerian or Turkish males being banned from falling in love with European women, because they are from a different 'religion' or 'race' - 'Separation' instead of 'integration' policies!

Now what would this lady say to the marriage of 'Heidi Klum and Seal'? (and they even created two little cute kiddies) – probably entitled "basta.. " and "not worth of existence" by the UAE???

'dontfearfreedom' great comment!
The most beautiful couple I have ever seen in my entire life was a tall, dark Saudi (related to the Royal family) and his smashingly beautiful, sexy, blond, blue-eyed Danish girlfriend. (every male would have wanted to get his hands on) Just to look at them was like enjoying 'chocolate with buttercream'! Best part was that the guy had enough integrity to say 'to hell with it' and moved into a small apartment with her in Geneva. (They meant in university as well)

Obviously (some) local women are that difficult, that they need a "special legal protection" to get a UAE male to marry them. On the other hand, what would you prefer: A woman that only uses you as a source, to satisfy all her material interests (starts with an expensive wedding) or a female that is with you only for one simple reason "love"? (assuming they are both the same age :-))

The new orientation of the elites in the UAE shows that they have developed beyond 'inbreeding rituals' risking negative recessive traits with some frustrated imposed cousin. Instead some of them have opted for a presentable, beautiful partner that they can proudly demonstrate to the global community – good move in international relations.

Let us have "free market conditions" and see what demand and supply will do ...

Now I am starting to understand why the local authorities lately seem to hunt down those poor 'Emirati' males that have fallen in love with foreign women.
Unwanted tendencies!


20 February, 2007 23:06  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I also think we need to look at it in another angle, this angle might not be the whole view, but I think it partially explains it also.

The standard and measure of beauty in the UAE strongly resembles that of western Europe. I.e their is a prefference for lighter skin, fair hair, coloured eyes, acqualine nose, etc.

Now there is nothing wrong with the above prefferences. Each to their own I believe. The problem lies in that these features are not native to here. Very few emaratis (middle easterners / south asians) have these attributes.

But people look for these attributes when searching for spouses and mates. So they cant find them here, they go looking for them somewhere else. So they sometimes marry nationalities that sometimes posses in varying degrees these attributes or at least point towards it.

So you have wifes from the levant, Egypt etc. These are from the arab countries, then sometimes countries further away. Now these countries also have lower standards of living, so the average dude from here can punch way above his weight. And can choose a mate that resembles his ideal.

As I said this doesnt explain it, but it is a significant factor to some men, and partly explains it I believe.

21 February, 2007 03:34  
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21 February, 2007 15:41  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I totally agree with this point of view and that is exactly how it needs to be looked at.

Not only in the UAE, but in most countries in the world (including the US) the ideal of beauty is still defined by the fair, tall, long legged Northern European look. While the fashion industry is designing their clothes for roughly 6 feet tall females, millions of women all over the world are dying their hair blond to resemble exactly this ideal. (Which however does not even work most of the time, because a natural blond will always be different).

In most developing countries it is a major status symbol to have such a "beauty" next to you, because it shows to everyone else that due to your position of power you can "punch way above your weight". As a paradox, especially those nations with military dictatorships have a high tendency into this direction. (most of them having a law to prevent exactly this).

As you already mentioned, the elite will try to score in Europe and those wanting to get there will be importing women from poorer economies, but with similar features (Bulgaria, Rumania, etc.) or alternatively in the GCC from Egypt, Lebanon, Jordan, Syria, etc.

However "this look" is not only a status symbol in developing countries. Try bringing a natural tall blond with blue eyes to Japan and see want happens.

Generally it can be said that a beautiful lady is the best accessory for a male, because ones he will start to be a global player and will thus be invited to official functions from Vienna to NY, what better thing to have than a "Sharon Stone" next to him? (a combination of ideal beauty and IQ) Immediately you will stick out from the crowd as an "Alpha male" and other men will envy you for your possession. (Nobody will care about your car, watch, suit, etc. – with such a company people will just assume that you have it all)

Some GCC nationals have realized this 25 years ago, so why should the Emirates not catch up?

Since opposites attract, I also believe that they have a fair chance (at least equal to most Latinos)

21 February, 2007 15:42  
Blogger babe_uae said...

I know what you are all saying, these UAE national do loose benefits for marrying non locals as I well know, I am British and married to a UAE national and boy do we feel it every day of the year, we dont get the marriage fund, we dont get a building grant, we dont get any privelages and no my husband cant be promoted anymore as he married me.

It makes me so angry, and there is NOTHING you can do about it - so much for being an islamic country YEAH right, Islam has no laws that says you have to marry the same nationality but that is another discussion.

Approach one of the "upper" people in this town who are married to non nationals they didnt loose out did they, no becasuse their tounges are too brown and use WASTA but for palin simple people there is no hope, just a rented house and government schooling.

HOORAH but hey at least I have true love ..........

22 February, 2007 10:13  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear UAE-babe
Your story made me very, very sad and I have the utmost respect for your husband to stand by you and for your mutual love. Sadly only few UAE males have the guts to oppose existing norms and bow down to social pressure.
Anyhow let's thing positive – at least your "husband" will not be among those 98% of UAE males that need to get rid of all their stored of frustrations out there and search for something that they do not seem to find at home. (risking HIV and so much more)

Wishing you both all the very best …. and it shows that "love does not know clor or race" :- )

PS: What about your BLOG? We are waiting ...

22 February, 2007 15:20  
Blogger secretdubai said...

Anon: I didn't publish your comment because it contained questionable medical data. If you want to repost it backed up with links to reliable medical data, fine.

So far as I am aware, no form of cancer is classified as a "sexually transmitted disease".

22 February, 2007 23:11  
Blogger secretdubai said...

Anon: I do not want my blog showing up in Google with wrong medical information on it. Check Wikipedia. 90% is not "all".

I also dislike your comments about "the West", and disagree with them. And I'm in the kind of mood today where I don't really want such comments on my blog.

23 February, 2007 01:09  
Blogger Curly said...

Re: uae_babe

I got married (now separated...irrelevant)...and I didn't get a marriage fund, or a building grant or anything else. Neither my parents, or their parents, or any other parents. They also "felt it everyday". What's your point? If you had met an married a scouser would you have been given any of this stuff by HRH. Doubt it.

Guess what? It's called real life - live it, love it, earn it and appreciate it.

Well done for crossing the boundaries as far as cross cultural relationships are concerned - but enjoy your marriage WITHOUT the assistance of a twisted system. You'd appreciate each other a lot more...

19 June, 2007 15:30  

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